Nollywood actress, Mercy Aigbe has advised people on how to deal with abusive partners, saying quitting the romantic relationship is the best.
In an Instagram session, the movie star said there is no point staying in an abusive relationship, adding that verbal abuse shouldn’t be snubbed, just as physical violence.
“If violence is involved, I say no, run for your life. Don’t stay there. We fail to understand that some forms of verbal abuse even kill faster than violence,” she stated.
Lamenting her frustration over numerous marital failures, Aigbe who divorced her husband three years ago over domestic violence suggested that for romantic relationships and marriages to work, sacrifices cannot not be the priority of involved parties.
Her words: “Nowadays, marriages are breaking up everywhere and I don’t know why. I only know why I got separated from my husband.
“However, I would not encourage anyone to stay in an abusive marriage. If a spouse has anger issues, such a person should seek help. There is nothing impossible. It is just very disheartening that marriages are breaking.
“These are two people from different homes and backgrounds coming together to live under the same roof as one. Even parents and children have issues. A mother and child relationship is usually considered the closest, yet they still have issues. How much more two people with different belief systems. There is bound to be conflict once in a while; it is how the conflict is managed that matters.
“A lot of people are depressed. I am tired of marriages breaking up. Marriage is all about sacrifices. And, sacrifices are not meant to be pleasant, so both parties should be ready to let go, compromise and reach a common ground.
“They (couple) should not be proud; neither should the man always boast that he is the head. We all know that men are the head but it is also important to note that women are the ‘neck’.
“As a virtuous woman, it is only the neck that can balance the head. If the head is slanted, it would not stand. Anywhere the neck wants to go is the same direction the head would go. Women are the neck that supports the head, so there should be mutual understanding.”