Chioma Ikokwu, better known as Chioma Goodhair, has revealed that she was abused in a previous relationship.
She revealed this in an episode of Toke Moments, hosted by Toke Makinwa.
Chioma discussed how she ignored signs of abuse in a previous relationship. One of the signs, according to the Real Housewives of Lagos star, was that he consistently sought forgiveness after wrongdoing.
She said, “I’ve been in a relationship that was violent, in my first relationship. But the thing is, the most violent men are the serial beggars. I remember the first time he did it, he slept outside my house on the floor for 3 days in the rain, sunshine and everything. Obviously by the fourth day and everything, I’m not a devil so I was like come in and sleep in the corridor. Then I woke up in the middle of the night and he was next to me on the bed.”
Another subtle hint she said she missed was the love bombing; the gifts he constantly showered on her, especially after offending her. In an interview with Makinwa, she discussed the shame of being abused and how she only told one person after her ex left her battered, bruised, and bloodied.
“These men beg and shower you with gifts and all these things and I’m a very strong person so I went back and it happened the second time. Both times I ended up in the hospital. It wasn’t a small thing. I did not have the courage to leave. The first time, I told my friend not to tell anyone because I was ashamed. He was so narcissistic. He was not taking responsibility and was telling people that I hit my face on the door.”
See the full interview below:
